Posted by Violet4EVR on October 30, 2004, at 1:58:48 [reposted on October 30, 2004, at 2:11:58 | original URL]
Hello All,
I don't know if this should be redirected to another discussion board. I'm sure Dr. Bob will redirect if necessary.
Anyway, i've been on Effexor and Xanax (as take as needed) for about two years now. I am very reluctant to open up to people about being on the meds, due to the stigma attached to them. I am not ashamed of myself, just cautious about who finds out about my medical/mental condition within my tight-knit , close community. What people don't know, won't hurt them.
Due to the fact that I am fortunate enough to have a somewhat controlable case of anxiety, I did not feel the need to share my condition with my boyfriend. I have never freeked out in public, or had any significant incidents which would warrant me to tell him about my medication.
I was so taken off guard tonight, because he looked in my purse for a piece of gum, and found some Xanax pills. First he asked "what the heck is this stuff" and I told him (very reluctanlty) that is was Xanax. He didn't belive me!!!! I guess because he perceives me as being so "together." Anyway, he concluded himself that it must be the new allergy medicine i'm taking....and I just agreed with him......
I was sooo upset because right before he left he said to me " I didn't mean to accuse you of taking any illegal drugs...I just wanted to know if my baby is a Mental Patient."
I was so disappointed he said this...and I don't know why...I guess the negative tone of his voice when he said "Mental Patient" really hurt me.
I don't know what to do...Do I tell him everything? Should I keep him unaware?? ..Its not like we are getting married or anything, so I don't feel ultimately compelled to tell him (we've been dating 5 months).
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I'm so upset and confused right now :'-(Thank so very much to all who reply.
Best Wishes,
Violet
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