Posted by octopusprime on October 13, 2004, at 0:24:57
In reply to Unable to Get Out of This Funk, posted by moime on October 12, 2004, at 18:37:22
i wish i could tell you that time will help.
i wish i could tell you something that would help.
boy isn't it heartbreaking, when somebody that your heart was sure was right for you turns out not to be the one.
especially when that somebody seems to be making stupid decisions that aren't in his best interests.
sorry i can't tell you anything more optimistic, i drank too much wine tonite and called my ex-boyfriend.
he ditched me a year ago (can you believe it) for his ex-wife. he says he's happy, they're happy together ... i can't believe it if she's really as controlling and mean as he said she was.
but i guess this is one wine soaked night for me and i'll be over it in the morning. i put all the pictures away and i'm not going to talk about him again for a while. i haven't had a drunken day like today in a long time. those pictures are going back on the shelf where they belong. i'm still not strong enough to look at them.
i felt a lot better after i started up a new hobby and made some new friends after i broke up with this guy. i lost a lot of weight too. so i look great, i have all these new skills, i feel like i'm in demand (in my hobby and in my career), it's a big confidence booster.
the world is my oyster.
so maybe you need to refocus on the other areas of your life for a while? i know i felt like monkey poop for months and months when i broke up with my ex. i went through the motions of life. but then the motions paid off about six months later, and i was able to participate in these new ventures wholeheartedly.
of course i do not have a new partner. which i suppose is the ultimate solution to these things. but i really haven't met anybody single that is suitable.
all i can say is good luck. hang in there. it never goes away (comes back some days) but the all monkey-poop, all the time feeling fades a bit as new interests work their way into your heart.
i'm typing this half for you and half for me. i need to tell myself this again. that i can and will bounce back. that these new interests can and will open pathways that will change my life in a positive way. that i don't need cheaters and liars.
i wish you could sleep too. but they invented sleep meds for just such situations. until the storm passes. i hope you can weather it.
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