Posted by NikkiT2 on October 2, 2004, at 9:58:38
In reply to Well Great....Now I Can't Have Sex and Enjoy It, posted by AdaGrace on September 27, 2004, at 11:13:45
Soomehow, I totally missed this boards arrival.. so this is my first post here..
the BIG O thing was a huge problem for me on Effexor.. when i was also trying to rebuild my relationship with my husband.
Anyway, not sure whether I'm allowed to mention this kind of stuiff here, but I will and see what happens!
For me, on the O issue, practice practice practice was the key to getting it back. I went out and bought a good vibrator (the Rabbit omces HIGHLY reccomended.. though the Rabbit 2 is not as good!), and when I had the chance had a play with it. It took a couple of months of daily, um, treatment, but it did start to get quicker and quicker. It might take 20 minutes or more at first, but after a couple months it was only taking 5 minutes or so.
And by the way, I did fall back in love with my husband.. and things have really really improved in our relionship. The sex thing wasn't too much of an issue, as at this time he also had to have some raher delicate surgery that left him unable to have sex for quite some months.. during this time we discovered that, for us, cuddles were the most important thing in getting closer. Holding, talking, and just relaxing with each other again.
Good luck
Nikki
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