Posted by just plain jane on September 23, 2004, at 18:05:06
In reply to Re: how to choose a partner, posted by annesand on September 23, 2004, at 12:25:36
Ask him to:
take off his shirt for you.
turn around slowly
smile
sing the Star Spangled Banner (or Oh Canada?)
draw a cube
change your oil
clean the toilet
have an intelligent conversation with each one of your children
sit down and be completely quiet for ten minutes (nothing to read or play with)
hand him the book you're reading and have him read the next chapter aloud for you
bake something from a recipe (not boxed)
play a board game you can whip him at, repeatedly
massage your (clean) feet
watch his face while you ask him if he'd have a hard time doing everything to care for a wheelchair bound loved one.
lie on the floor with your dog/cat/gerbil/petyou can assess his reactions to:
go without makeup for a week or two (I go without all the time)
rearrange his (or your) furniture
your description of your psychological difficulties
all of the requests you made of him (like those in the list above)
the way you cook
the way you clean
the way you anythingIf any of these things, or similar situations you orchestrate to gauge his responses, hits a bad note with you, chances are it's just the tip of the crappy relationship iceberg.
Just my opinion.
jpj
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