Posted by Catgirl on September 20, 2004, at 21:07:22
In reply to Re: I did it, posted by shrinking violet on September 19, 2004, at 18:58:02
Actually, I think he just has a hard time putting things to rest with himself. He's very bitter about some things that happened to him in the past.
I agree with the "I" statements. It definitely helps to keep things less defensive and helps me to take responsibility for whatever I may have contributed to the problem.
Family! :)
> I'm glad it went well!
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> I was thinking about this....is your brother the type of person to hold everything in, and then let it all out when it becomes too much? My sister is like that a lot, and we've had some "confrontations" (mostly by email, but still hurtful and upsetting) about my "issues" (mainly my eating disorder). She tends to stew about things, and then at some point she blows up and lets it all spew out, like a volcano. Not a pretty thing to deal with. Like Dinah, I'd much rather her use "I" statements and calmly and rationally speak to me about an issue (although, if the issue is about me or something personal and private....like my ED....I'd rather not be confronted at all).
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> Family, eh? :-P
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