Posted by Dinah on September 18, 2004, at 22:31:01
In reply to Re: Oh brother » Catgirl, posted by Dinah on September 18, 2004, at 22:24:42
I guess I should define what confrontation means to me. It may mean something completely different to you. To me confrontation means focusing on the other person's behavior. "You" statements. I haven't found that works very well with the people in my life.
But concentrating on myself works better. A very polite and conversational "I really feel xxxx when you zzzz. I'm afraid I just can't be around you when you zzzz. I have too much self respect to allow myself to be zzzz'd. So next time you start to zzzz, I'm going to have to leave. Since I'd really like to spend time with you, and would prefer not to leave, I hope it doesn't become necessary." works better for my family.
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