Posted by Rockerr on July 8, 2016, at 22:40:10
In reply to Re: trusting your T » rockerr, posted by Dinah on July 8, 2016, at 9:40:17
That's what I struggle w Dinah I don't know if objectively
We are a good enough fit. I've literally had 8 therapists in 20 years all lasted at least a year one for 5.
It's so hard for me to trust my assessment of a good enough for when I feel like so many are bad fits. There are some who have been terrible fits and I have left after one or fewer sessions or just didn't meet w them after a phone call.
I referred a friend of mine to my therapist and after 8 months my friend dumped him because he thought he was a dick but he also respected him and felt he was very smart.
I told my T it's not only me who thinks he is harsh my friend did too and T said don't refer anyone to me again it's too loaded for you. That's him being harsh but also protective. I can be harsh too. ita just hard I feel mistreated by every T I have and was mistreated in my young life and they all tell me it's transference and I say no you're an *ss and they say it's transference and this is when all my therapies end.
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