Posted by baseball55 on July 8, 2016, at 19:06:14
In reply to Re: trusting your T, posted by rockerr on July 8, 2016, at 6:58:02
I certainly didn't mean you weren't well enough to do therapy. But if you've been in individual therapy for many years with multiple therapists (which is what your first post indicated) and encountered the same trust issues, then you surely have to question whether INDIVIDUAL (and presumably dynamic?) therapy is right for you at this point in your life. If the issue is, as you said, that you know you he cares about you, but you can't fully believe that anyone cares about you, then have you brought this up with him? I felt the same way when I first started therapy. I just couldn't believe that he really cared and I felt despairing sometimes about this. But, like Dinah said about her therapy, we just kept talking and talking and talking about it. As far as you caring for your patients, I was very loving to my husband and daughter, but gave and gave and asked for nothing in return because I didn't really trust that they cared about me. My T said that people who didn't receive love as children could still give love, but often couldn't believe in or accept love from others .
So my two questions for you are (1) why do you want to be in therapy and (2) do you discuss this issue regularly with your therapist?> i was annoyed when baseball wrote "If, after 3 years, you can't overcome your distrust and you have had this problem with other therapists and been unable to work through it, it may be that individual therapy isn't going to work for you." when you(dinah) wrote that you agree with him that also annoyed me. it hurts to think i may not be well enough to benefit from therapy. im not sure its really fair for either of you to make a statement like that. its scary to think i cant be helped by therapy. it makes me feel really alone and damaged to consider not being able to connect to another person enough to benefit from a therapy relationship.
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