Posted by oceansun on November 19, 2014, at 23:15:25
In reply to Re: Termintation, new therapist, old babble threads... » oceansun, posted by happyflower123 on November 14, 2014, at 22:28:56
Yeah, a therapist leaving is really hard, although it actually wasn't her choice, so that's somewhat better. I guess it has its pluses in that you can get a new perspective that may be enlightening, a new way of looking at things. I went from psychoanalytic to DBT, and while DBT isn't warm and fuzzy like with my old therapist, which I am missing terribly, I am learning new things, and interacting with the new therapist in a new, more adult way.
What may help is writing a history of yourself to give to your new therapist, so there's a base of information for her to work from. Writing that in itself is enlightening!
Frankly, I thought I literally wasn't going to survive my therapy ending, but it's only a few months later and I look upon our therapy now with more fondness than loss. I do write her a letter once a month, but my life doesn't center around that the way I thought it would. And you will be able to keep your old therapist close in a way because of her connection with your new therapist.
Much good luck!
> Hello oceansun,
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> Ending therapy is so hard, especially if you have had a T for a long time. Somehow I feel it would feel worse (if that is even possible) for a T to leave instead of a client leaving. I am glad you feel comforted by my story, but your story allows me to see it could feel worse to have been in your place.
> I like my new T so far, but haven't built any trust with her yet, and my old T is helping with the transition. They know each other and do similar trauma work.
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> So what are the pluses of starting over? I am still looking for one. haha!
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