Posted by Dinah on March 20, 2014, at 17:43:34
In reply to Re: And that's it for me, guys. Bye. » Dinah Seeks Support, posted by baseball55 on March 16, 2014, at 20:28:05
I was feeling pretty fragile. I probably still am. I don't know really....
I understand that my issue might be triggering for a lot of people here. It's the worst nightmare. I certainly have fussed at my therapist often for what other people's therapists have done. So I really do understand.
Every therapy dyad is different. And what's "true" in your therapy relationship isn't necessarily true for others. Our boundaries weren't either better or worse than with your therapist. They were just different. Partly because of the years involved, partly because of the nature of the work (which largely involved fear of abandonment), and partly because we lived through Katrina as comrades as well as therapist/client.
What is reasonable for your response and his actions is not necessarily the same as is reasonable for my response and my therapist's actions.
I'm not entirely sure why you thought, that day, that I was primarily angry with him. I was furious with the therapist who called me in to her office merely to tell me that he actually had abandoned me, she would curl up and die if it happened to her, and that he was never coming back. I'd have been way happier if she had never contacted me after telling me he wasn't dying.
Also, to some extent the anger I felt towards my therapist was protective. You might find, if you are ever in this situation, that anger feels less horrible than terror.
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