Posted by baseball55 on December 19, 2013, at 20:27:48
In reply to Re: Avoidant Attachement Disorder, posted by alexandra_k on December 18, 2013, at 15:09:04
I read about attachment theory somewhere, several years ago -- secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment. I was definitely in the avoidant attachment category. I fled from my mother from as early an age as I can remember. I developed this very hard, independent, self-reliant, edgy persona that left me mostly isolated.
What made me realize I needed to change was watching my daughter grow up. I was a good parent - did everything the opposite of my own parents -- and she was securely attached and went on to form secure friendships, relationships with teachers, other adults. She had this happy adolescence where I had been a mess. I began to think about my life and was overwhelmed by the whole thing.
I started seeing a therapist and that helped a lot. Of course, by that time, I was ready to change.
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