Posted by Partlycloudy on September 23, 2013, at 17:43:54
In reply to Re: Ideal Fit, posted by pegasus on September 23, 2013, at 13:54:10
> I imagine that a T would have to be really warm, and forthcoming with really specific, connecting statements about how much they like me and care about me, etc. Coupled with a feeling that they really get what I'm saying, appreciate my sense of humor, etc. But . . . I had that with one of my Ts, and it actually didn't help. So, I can't imagine anything else that would.
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> In fact, when I looked for the next T, I think I unconsciously chose someone that didn't feel all that warm. Because after warm-T abandoned me, it was devastating. So warmth no longer felt safe.
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> peg(((Pegasus))) It's one of the few places I feel safe. But I must be careful, because I have to carry that feeling beyond the session and internalize it. I am not there, not when I am in crisis.
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