Posted by Dinah on September 7, 2013, at 22:03:36
In reply to Re: Ideal Fit, posted by alexandra_k on September 7, 2013, at 17:54:56
Well, I suppose it could mean a lot of different things. Shared sense of humor was mentioned. I suppose a shared vocabulary would help, since someone is more likely to be influenced if they really get what someone is saying. Style would be another. A lot of people find "direct" helpful. I tend to find it rude and am *very* unlikely to change in response to it. Dr. Phil would see my back before the end of the first session.
Chemistry is more ephemeral. I suspect I felt safer with my therapist because he is large and has a deep voice. That probably evoked feelings of safety from my childhood. People who had negative experiences with a large person may well have had the opposite reaction. I am comfortable with his... oh, for want of a better word, "aura". It's relaxing, and not terribly high energy. I think I wouldn't like a high energy person as a therapist.
But I suppose when I think "ideal" therapist, I tend to think more of skills and reactions. Not what's ideal for me, precisely.
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