Posted by baseball55 on December 9, 2012, at 19:27:28
In reply to Attachment to therapist, posted by mmealltalk on December 9, 2012, at 11:26:13
This may sound crazy, but sometimes you need a therapist (or at least a confidant) to talk about your relationship with your therapist. I became completely attached to this p-doc I saw for therapy and, when I began seeing a social worker for DBT and talking to her about my p-doc (who I continued to see, because I couldn't imagine life without him). She provided an outlet. My conversations with my p-doc about my love and attachment to him became solopsitic. It was like an adolescent talking to her parents, from whom she needed to separate, about her fears of separation. It didn't work and it didn't help. But bringing a third party into the discussion really helped a lot. I have moved most of my therapy to her, from him. I now see him for half-an-hour every three weeks and plan to cut back to every three weeks. I am too dependent on him. It is not healthy. A therapist is not your parent or your friend. The point is to grow enough to let them go. That's the goal of therapy. But you may need some outside help to learn to let her go.
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