Posted by pegasus on February 9, 2012, at 12:48:35
In reply to Re: Ts as prostitutes » pegasus, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2012, at 11:10:16
Yeah, but:
1. I don't think the therapists that offer a simple service, coaching or thought correction or whatever are the ones that we tend to angrily compare to prostitutes.
2. We get a caring presence in our lives from other professionals, where it also lasts only as long as the money holds out. I'm thinking here about my chiropractor, at the moment. She's so wonderful. But I have certainly never felt compelled to compare any of those relationships to prostitution.
3. When I compare my T to a prostitute, I'm not OK with that comparison. No matter what I may think about any prostitute as an individual. I'm saying that want my therapy to be something different than that.
I agree that the key seems to be around the shame/humiliation involved in wanting/needing that caring from our Ts, in combination with having to pay. If we weren't ashamed, maybe we wouldn't mind the financial transaction? *And* if we didn't have to pay, maybe the shame alone wouldn't make us feel like johns? I'm not so sure about either of those, actually.
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