Posted by sigismund on October 19, 2011, at 20:44:57
In reply to Re: in a very dark place.. please someone talk with me, posted by Lamdage22 on October 19, 2011, at 16:52:09
I guess I don't see it as extreme disturbance. To see it as extreme disturbance is the make the same mistake you have been making as you go.
These are the mistakes I have in mind.
You try to buy what cannot be bought.
You react angrily at affection because it feels tainted by commerce.
You demonised her to make your position seem better.
Now you are demonising yourself.Now these are just basic mistakes. But the task you were faced with was not easy. I wouldn't know, but relationships with girls in brothels don't seem easy to me.
Let's look at the positives, albeit one mismanaged. And before you emphasise that, it is human to mismanage things. You had a nice time with this girl. That is what stands out for me.
Your desire to see it in terms of how f*ck*d up you are is just another sign of lack of balance.
Maybe that is what I am trying to say? That it is a question of balance, rather than a question of being really f*ck*d up and needing to root out the basis of the problem with therapy?
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