Posted by annierose on October 15, 2011, at 15:40:17
In the interest of not boring you with too many details ... here is the guts of the story.
I arrive a few minutes early to therapy and while in the parking lot, I see my sister in law's sister going towards her car. Immediately I correctly guess that she saw "my" therapist. My s-i-l asked me for my t's phone number and I never had the chance to talk with my t about this being conflict since I was dealing with other more important "stuff".
I let my t know that I know Mrs. E. She is my sister-in-law's step sister and I can't believe how fast the number was given and an appointment made (48 hours). At first, t won't admit that she saw Mrs. E but finally admits that this is a potential conflict.
I back peddal on my initial disappointment because I do think Mrs. E would like my t. Their personalities are similar. I'm more the bull in the china shop type and my t and Mrs. E are more demure, quiet, kind, polite, good liseners. My t is concerned for my feelings and asks what I would like her to do - but I can't and won't say "don't see her". And as I thought about it, I hardly know Mrs. E. I see her probably once a year or twice - max. I don't know too much about her - mostly general stuff when my s-i-l is talking about her family.
Mrs. E does not know that I see the T she was referred to ... and my t would like to keep it that way if she is to continue seeing her.
I told my T that I have known her for over 25 years (not seeing her all that time mind you) and that I feel our relationship is strong ... this won't change anything. But there is a small part that says "ouch" ... someone is stepping on my toes.
T and I decided we would both think about it and talk more later ... but if she was to continue seeing Mrs. E, I had to promise, along with my s-i-l that we would not discuss Mrs. E's therapy ... i.e. I can't ask sil, "so does Mrs. E like my t?"
Would this bother you?
poster:annierose
thread:999819
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