Posted by Solstice on August 29, 2011, at 6:20:15
In reply to Re: Ups and downs of new therapy » Solstice, posted by floatingbridge on August 28, 2011, at 17:03:39
> Sol, that is a great suggestion. I just might use that as a focus/starting point for my next session..
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> Thank you for an astute observation. I'm not sure I would have thought to do that myself.
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> fb:-) I don't think I would have tho't of it myself, either... it's just I've been in this therapeutic relationship for such a long time now.. and any time I've been out-of-sorts about anything, T picks up on it, and doesn't let me get away with not talking about it. I've always been so terribly reluctant to reveal what's going on inside.. fearful of being misunderstood and of being rejected. But T has not let me get away with holding back, and as a result, I really have learned that there's not much that can't be worked out if two people will talk. T modeled it for me over and over and over again - all the relational hiccups that take place - including therapeutic missteps - If I just put words to my feelings, it WILL be worked out. The main thing T has said all these years is: "I need to be able to trust you that you'll tell me if anything's amiss. If you'll tell me, we will work it out together." And we have. Every time. Doesn't matter whether it's about the therapeutic relationship - or other things causing me angst. T and I start talking about it, and my circumstances may not change, but my feeling about them or response to them frequently changes, and the main thing is that I'm left being okay!
Sol
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