Posted by emmanuel98 on August 19, 2011, at 19:13:43
In reply to aging issues in and out of therapy, posted by pegasus on August 19, 2011, at 11:38:12
I went through a professional setback around 50 and it really freaked me out. I think I had started to define myself professionally partly as a way to deal with the fact that I was no longer young and pretty and able to use my looks as a way to get attention.
I talked a lot about this with my p-doc, though he is older than me (and male). I don't know if I would have felt comfortable talking about this to a younger man. Of course he never said, you look fine or anything like that. He wouldn't, even if he were female. Instead he asked about what my looks had meant to me, what life meant if I wasn't professionally successful, what it meant that I wasn't needed as a parent anymore.
I don't know if you have children, but having your children stop needing you just as you're aging is a bitch to deal with.
My only advice -- avoid spending $$ on those anti-aging creams. They don't work anyway.
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