Posted by emmanuel98 on June 28, 2011, at 21:23:00
In reply to Re: update, posted by Annabelle Smith on June 28, 2011, at 20:38:44
Well, I'm no one to talk, since my transference reaction to my p-doc was intense, crazy, overwhelming and after 6 years I am not quite over it. But looking at it from the other side, it seems you need to get enough control to do your job, not ruin your life over a relationship that, ultimately, is limited and destined to end. That's what my p-doc told me over and over, to my dismay -- this is destined to end. The goal is to end, for you to get better and not need him so desperately anymore. My p-doc was always very clear and honest about this. We would not be friends. Our relationship would never be anything beyond what we had -- one hour a week, with a few feet seperating us, never touching, or shaking hands or hugging. This upset me beyond belief for a long time.
My p-doc would never agree to see my twice a week. He felt things were too intense at once a week and twice a week would make things more intense. This was hard to hear, but I think a correct judgement on his part. You might want to think about that. Will seeing him twice a week make things easier or more intense and overwhelming?
What is his experience in dealing with intense transference? You might want to ask him that. Generally DBT/CBT therapists have limited experience with this and, given the intensity of your reaction to him, things could get very messy unless he is very clear on understanding your reactions and setting very clear boundaries.
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