Posted by emmanuel98 on May 27, 2011, at 20:42:37
In reply to Re: Dear____ Post-session feelings, posted by Willful on May 27, 2011, at 8:31:34
I had intense and painful transference issues with my p-doc, yet I never left a session without feeling better, like I had learned something, we had accomplished something, I was working through painful issues in a constructive way.
It seems you never leave a session without feeling worse and this makes me wonder why you are so attached to therapy. You had an opportunity to move away and do a program that would have been challenging and fun and you chose to stay and be unhappy in therapy. Can you still move or is it too late to start this program? Because it doesn't seem like you derive any emotional benefit from therapy. You are in love with some idealized concept of your therapist and crave some sort of epiphany and oneness that will never happen. Therapy is hard work. You slog through painful stuff from your past and learn slow and hard techniques to regulate your emotions. If you have a good therapist, it will never end up with you having sex or staring in one another's eyes over dinner. It will just continue to be painful, frustrating hard work. If you accept this, you can learn to be an easier and lighter person. DBT techniques like meditation and mindful activities can help make you more in control of your emotions, more at ease in life. But the deep transformation you seek will not happen in therapy, especially not in DBT.
You seem to crave something from therapy which therapy does not provide. Is it really therapy you need? Or do you need a challenge and distraction in your life? That's what the program you rejected might provide.
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