Posted by Solstice on May 26, 2011, at 14:31:24
In reply to Re: I'm leaving this board » Annabelle Smith, posted by Dinah on May 26, 2011, at 13:14:30
I think he's right, Dinah. Case in point... is that on here, you are highly regarded.. very much valued and loved.. and maybe it's because you invest so much of yourself here... especially on this particular board.
And as for groups.. one thing I'm pretty sure of, is that every person in the group is primiarily concerned with whether they are accepted. I think anyone who goes into a group and just focuses on finding someone to listen to.. and offers interest and acceptance.. is going to find themselves quickly embraced. That's the way you are here.. and I imagine that if you could put the lid on your own self-consciousness and let the Dinah we all know do what she does so well here, you might be surprised when all those ducks start trying to stand on one leg :-)
Solstice
> Perhaps you might feel more part of the group here if you responded to the posts of others. My therapist has been bugging me a lot lately about socializing. I told him Tuesday that I found it very difficult to feel part of a group. That I felt like a wading bird standing on one leg in a pond full of ducks. I can stand there one legged forever without feeling part of the flock.
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> He said that the way to feel part of the group is to not only physically be there but to invest myself. To give of myself to the group. That what I receive from the group will be, to some extent, commensurate with what I put into the group.
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> Naturally I rejected his advice, knowing that he couldn't possibly understand a wading bird, being a duck himself. But I'll pass it on to you, for what it's worth.
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