Posted by violette on February 1, 2011, at 16:23:51
In reply to Re: GOOD reading for borderline type disorder » violette, posted by floatingbridge on January 24, 2011, at 0:04:37
> I'm not sure. Aren't we both kinda saying the same thing in different ways?
Yes, it is the same thing said in different ways-that is what is helpful to know.
> You see, I did have trauma. It sounds like a tiny-weeny, endless, water torture trauma of being alone for years and years. Walker's article, just as Sigi mentioned, includes simple neglect--a relational vacuum as trauma to a developing child. (Then there were later traumas, for an isolated, naive adolescent who leaves home usually runs into trouble.)
I sse-i thought you had said you didn't suffer traumas...it doesn't sound teeny-weeny to me. I understand though, people minimize all the time.
But-please don't underestimate neglect.i would never know for sure but i feel that its affected me more than all the other types of abuse combined. Lots of attachment related stuff i read confirms how much neglect can affect children as they develop.
Especially when you are an infant. People might not even be aware of being neglected while so small. 'Good' parents can have temporary dysfunction too-post partum depression or other issues. Maybe even the parents whose best intentions match their actions, but don't know any better. Then there are those who are severely ill themselves, with personality disorders but who don't have enough axis i traits to bring them to treatment, or who are too ill to see they need treatment.
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