Posted by obsidian on December 28, 2010, at 20:29:46
In reply to Re: overattachment is painful and scary » Annabelle Smith, posted by obsidian on December 28, 2010, at 19:47:53
> Hey, I have experienced an intense attachment to my t, so I will try to say something about what has helped me for whatever that is worth. I am struck a bit by the way you are categorizing yourself. Attachment is after all a very human experience however overwhelming it might be.
> For my part I was born to two limited people into a chaotic and sometimes violent household. I do not recall my parents relating to me as a person. I do recall emotionally abusive experiences, neglect, abandonment, alcoholism, violence. I couldn't trust the ground under my feet. Imagine then what it is to find someone who listened to me, really heard me, something other than an echo in my head. Imagine what it is to have something needed so much. I could not trust that. So, ask yourself what your experiences have been, and then why this one is so important.
> I think the writing thing is a good idea, to your t and maybe between the parts of yourself that are battling this out. I would also try to connect to other parts of your life and the people in it. This sounds like this is really difficult for you, but I believe you can get through it. Take good care of yourself, no matter what.What I wrote sounds a bit self indulgent to me. This is after all about you, not me.
I sound a bit obvious to myself too. I guess there is a part of me that wants you to have some compassion for yourself. I have hated myself for needing my T as much as I have and as much as I do.
I am going through some stuff.
I guess what I said only related to the "why" maybe and not the how to deal with it part.It is truly a good question. You probably know the "why"? It is hard to think yourself out of this one though.
I'll go read the other posts again.
take good care of yourself though really...it might not take away the pain, but perhaps ease it?
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