Posted by amh on December 23, 2010, at 10:47:56
In reply to Re: Help!! Advice wanted!! Worried!! » amh, posted by PartlyCloudy on December 22, 2010, at 15:04:18
Thanks for all your responses. I talked to a psychiatric nurse and she said that I'd have to be a psychopath to make something like this up and that if I were a psychopath I wouldn't be worried about him or be trying to get him help.
He refuses to get healthcare. He is seeing a Christian counselor who has not only seen most of this behavior in his office but also heard ALL my stories, more than I wrote about here. This counselor will not answer any of my questions and refuses to refer us on to a psychiatrist. He seems to me to be validating my husband and things have gotten worse since he started seeing him. In my mind, it is verging on malpractice at this point.
I do not have children with this man. I have 13 year old twins from a previous relationship and although I have been trying to shield them from this, they do know what is going on. My daughter actually broke down last night telling me some instances where he treated her exactly like he has been treating me (calling her a liar over some stupid incident with cheese at the grocery store)
He has moved out. And cut us off financially. Yet all the while telling people he loves me and that I am sick and need help, etc etc.
He has only one friend (who doesn't live in our town) and doesn't believe me when I called him, saying my husband is a "saint" and the finest man he has ever known.
I tried to talk to his mother, especially to find out more about his family history because he had once told me that his Grandma was in and out of hospitals her whole life and even had shock treatments(?) although I don't know why. His mother was extremely defensive, told me they have seen no changes in their son (the golden boy) and basically told me to not contact her again.
I feel like I have done everything I can to help this man. From now on I have to worry about myself and protect my children.
I assume he can't keep up this facade forever, the truth will come out sooner or later and I sure hope it doesn't involve a tragedy :(
Can a person with a neurological condition be so manipulative and put up such a good front to others in his life? He lies about everything now and the truly scary thing is I am certain he believes it all.
Thanks again to everyone for helping a complete stranger.
I'll post again if I have news.
XOXO,
Anna
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