Posted by pegasus on December 22, 2010, at 17:42:29
In reply to Re: Help!! Advice wanted!! Worried!! » amh, posted by PartlyCloudy on December 22, 2010, at 15:04:18
Oh, wow, that sounds impossibly difficult. I imagine that it won't be all that easy to convince him to get a neurological exam. I wonder if you could talk him into a general physical exam? They might catch on to something there, especially if you can go along.
It certainly sounds to me as though the problem is with him and not you. I can understand how you might be doubting your own sanity. And yet, he is the one who is talking about becoming a great spiritual leader, which does sound a lot like a delusion. And you have others who saw the bruise on you, so you can be pretty sure that that first night was him hitting you and not the other way around. I imagine that your kids are able to tell you that they notice a big change in dad as well.
I wonder what his parents and others who know him well say about this? Is there any way you can talk to them? See if they've noticed a change in the past year? Maybe they are in a better position to persuade him to see a doctor?
Is there anyone with whom he seems to have a relationship he values now? Can you talk to that person about helping persuade him to see a neurologist?
If there is no way to convince him, then I guess you're left with only the power to decide what *you* are going to do. Is it reasonable to continue living with him? Are you physically afraid of him, for yourself or the kids? Are you worried about his affect on the kids (I think I might be)?
I wish you lots of luck in this extremely difficult situation. Let us know how things go.
- P
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