Posted by pegasus on November 23, 2010, at 9:24:10
In reply to Found out my T's age! Pandora's box!, posted by Anemone on November 19, 2010, at 19:22:32
I agree with the others that Ts really should expect to be googled these days. Unless they are quite out of touch with modern life.
I've googled every T I've had, and every T I interviewed when looking for a new one. I mentioned it to most of them, and they took it in stride. Some seemed a bit surprised about what I was able to discover online about them, but not that I'd looked. Most already knew what was there, because they regularly google themselves, expecting clients to do the same.
We've had several conversations on babble over the years about whether it's OK to google one's T. Usually most folks weigh in on the side of it being OK. But almost everyone reported at least considering it. For what that's worth to you.
I see no reason to apologize for googling my Ts. In my mind, it's about information being power. They have so much info = power over me, that I feel the need to balance that by googling them. Or, alternatively, and probably a more healthy thing, I'll just ask them outright about things I want to know.
Once I actually found pictures of the inside of my Ts house, when he put his home on the market. That was a bit trippy. But inappropriate? I'm not sure. I never told him I'd found that. ;)
I also have issues with my T's age. In my case, he's a few years younger than me, which brings up anxiety for me around aging, and being seen (dismissed?) as an "old lady". Plus, I like the dynamic of having an older, wiser T. I'm sure this will all come up eventually in my sessions.
- P
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