Posted by Willful on November 4, 2010, at 22:55:49
In reply to Re: Confused about what this means! Worried! Panicky!, posted by Daisym on November 4, 2010, at 21:53:32
I don't know your T, of course,so my opinion is just an opinion, but it would be highly unusual for a T to reject a payment -- for prior sessions.
I don't mean to suggest that Ts are mercenary, or do their work for the payment-- but I do think, since you owed your T the check, it would be very strange if her way of telling you that she found the hearts on the envelop unacceptable would be to tell the mailman to return the check.
If you're worried that she didn't like the hearts on the envelop per se-- which I tend also to doubt-- how would she know you don't put hearts on lots of envelops, or know what exactly it meant? She might want to discuss it with you, to explore the feelings further, but I can't see her jumping to the most negative conclusions. And truly it's hard to see putting hearts on an envelop as the sort of intrusive interaction that might lead to rejection-- or any harsh reaction. It would be rather hard of her to return an envelop that way-- by an impersonal "return to send" label from the post office. I just can't imagine a T doing that.
Of course, maybe there's a history about this that I don't know-- which might give it a different meaning. But if it's an isolated gesture of fondness or affection, I just can't imagine that she would be hurtful in responding.
I certainly very much hope not-- as it would be very uncalled for-- under any circumstances-- but even more so if it is just a small gesture. I would of course ask her as soon as you can, and I hope you find the reassurance you need.
Willful.
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