Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2010, at 13:50:46
In reply to Re: I wasn't sure what to do, posted by rskontos on October 31, 2010, at 0:56:33
That's likely true. It's probably more likely that some point in the last year or two, he confronted his defensiveness in his life and made the decision to admit to the vulnerability of uncertainty. I'm glad he didn't decide that earlier. Whatever his intent, it lessens his authority and with it my comfortable view of him as an authority - however flawed I saw him.
It's not that he was ever rigidly defensive. He never was. He always admitted that there were two people in any given interaction, and that my view was as valid as his. But the vulnerability is new, and a bit disconcerting to me.
It may be just a word change on his part, but words mean a lot to me. A slight difference of words can mean a world of meaning to my ear.
He was worried. I could tell that not only from what he said in session, but from the email he sent when I wasn't there. It was as formal and stiff as ever. He doesn't have an ease with writing. But it did have a tone of concern. It really wasn't like me, and it wouldn't have happened this time if I hadn't left my cell phone at home. And missed a parking spot in the garage. And was somewhat late to start with. Etc.
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