Posted by Dinah on October 30, 2010, at 23:23:58
In reply to Re: I wasn't sure what to do » Dinah, posted by wittgensteinz on October 30, 2010, at 15:36:26
> It probably wouldn't do much for my feeling of ease/safety either. I don't tend to like shrugs of the shoulders or "I don't know"'s. Then again, maybe it is more real and honest than a defensive response.
I think it probably is. I like to think of him as more self assured, but he's probably just faking it like most of us are.
> Do you really think this is a calculated strategy of his to reduce your dependency on him? I have the feeling we, as clients, tend to attribute more cunning and strategy to our therapists than really exists (just my own feeling).
That's definitely my experience of him. Yet I also have the experience that he has a native feel for what I need at any given time. Maybe it's not a conscious decision on his part, but it might be an unconscious reaction to what he perceives in our relationship. Certainly it's a newish dynamic between us. Maybe the last year or two.
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> Why were you so late? Is there something to read into that?Only that I was very busy at work, and probably should have canceled altogether. I'd slept very little this past week, preparing for a deadline yesterday. I thought I'd be finished before our session so I didn't cancel, but I wasn't finished. I sent out some emails before I left for the session. Then stupidly passed the open parking spaces in the parking garage thinking I saw one closer. I had to leave the garage, drive around the corner, re-enter and try again. I was just way too tired to think straight, since I worked straight through the night.
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> WittiThanks, Witti.
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