Posted by twinleaf on October 25, 2010, at 16:24:03
In reply to Perfectionism, posted by wittgensteinz on October 25, 2010, at 15:17:15
Hi exhausted Witti! What you posted resonates with me. I also tend to feel that I have to be perfect, or - I start to feel that everything about me is wrong. One thing that I have found helpful is just more life experience- more experience of accomplishing things, not perfectly, but well enough. I try to practice noticing my shortcomings and failures in conjunction with my successes; holding both points of view in mind, and trying to feel confident and "good enough" while being aware of both. I was surprised to find that, after a while, I began to feel proud of my ability to hold onto my self-esteem while being aware of my failures. It's much easier now than when I first tried to do it. And it wasn't until I got over the depression that holding such a range of self-views at once became even a possibility.
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