Posted by Daisym on October 22, 2010, at 23:04:53
In reply to more from my T about transference (long), posted by pegasus on October 21, 2010, at 11:52:55
Limited Education? OUCH! And I'm not sure he said anything we haven't said. My interpretation, without having been there, is that he believes if you understand transference and/or the transferencial process, you wouldn't have hurt feelings or feel shame when you hear the word applied to you. I personally think this is BS, because something being true doesn't make it not hurtful.
I'm always struck by discussions about transference because eventually they evolve to everyone acknowledging that some of the feelings "belong" to the here and now others "evolve" from previous, unprocess experiences. My therapist usually encourages me to think in terms of intensity - if the feelings feel more intense than they typically would, or I think they should - we try to figure out why. But I guess we usually do it without invoking the "T" word. I think I use it more than he does.
But it is very cool that your therapist is willing to engage in the discussion and he does acknowledge the spectrum of feelings that are in the room. I like that he said "both parties" since his previous experiences clearly influence how he sees things just like yours do.
Part of me wants to ask you about focusing on the process - and is that safer than focusing on the actual feelings - no matter what we call them? But I won't. :)
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