Posted by pegasus on October 11, 2010, at 10:28:55
In reply to Re: Some definitions, posted by emmanuel98 on October 8, 2010, at 19:41:47
See, now, I disagree that relinquishing the "golden fantasy" and mourning the lack of good parenting was what was helpful in my past therapy. On the contrary, I think experiencing that intimate, attached relationship, and believing wholeheartedly in it, was what allowed me to make the positive changes that I made in my previous therapy. Maybe that's why I see framing it as transference (in this way) as unhelpful.
Maybe you're right that it is transference because the intensity of the emotion and neediness is beyond what the actual therapy relationship entails. But I'm not sure. I mean, I think my old T would disagree about the therapy relationship not encompassing all of that. He seemed fine with it, and even encouraging of it.
I've been reading this book called "Attachment in Psychotherapy", that talks about a new "intersubjective" approach to therapy, that welcomes and uses the attachment that naturally forms in therapy. I'm only part way through, but it's helping me start to make sense of my past experience, and how it seems different than some discussions of transference that I've heard.
- P
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