Posted by twinleaf on October 9, 2010, at 10:11:12
In reply to Attachment vs. transference, posted by pegasus on October 8, 2010, at 9:47:41
I think you are making an important distinction. Just allowing the relationship to *be* - letting the attachment develop - seems to me to be the most helpful thing to do. Pointing out the transference aspects of the relationship runs the risk of making it a less close and important part of our experience. I think the word psychoanalysts use is "experience-near" to describe the powerful effect of just being with your therapist.
The analyst I have now makes a point of NOT interpreting or explaining anything about our relationship - he just wants it to be experienced. If I want to talk about something that happened between us, that is fine, but the experiencing is what counts for him.
Its hard to say why, but it's tremendously helpful.
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