Posted by violette on September 12, 2010, at 10:47:36
In reply to Re: can you tell when your therapist, posted by tetrix on September 11, 2010, at 9:45:56
Hey Tetrix,
Glad to hear comparing notes helped you out.
One thing i don't think i mentioned, and with which i've both experienced and read about - denial is one thing that seems to be addressed a bit differently....while a T can bring a patient's defenses to awareness in conjunction with interpretations, that doesn't always work with denial, where the T might have to come up with diffferent ways to provoke in dismantling this defense...same with other maladaptive behaviors or defenses that may go unchanged despite a therapist addressing them, perhaps repeatedly...
I should probably mention my T has over 3 decades of experience, so that may be one reason why he doesn't seem 'artificial' - he likely developed techniques natural to his personality over the years..and of course, individualized to the patient. He is very sure of himself.
During our initial session where we met for the first time, i knew he was the right therapist for me; his genuineness/lack of fakeness was a huge influence as i have relevant mother issues related to childhood trauma. I could not deal with the issues you mention here-such as canned responses...I understand having those feelings..
You didn't mention how long you were seeing this therapist, maybe she just doesn't yet know you well or is a bit misattuned for other reasons. But i bet the 2 of you will figure it out after discussions..
Whatever it is, i hope talking about this with your therapist leads to positive changes, a stronger alliance, and overall progress with your therapy.
Take care
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