Posted by violette on September 8, 2010, at 21:06:21
In reply to can you tell when your therapist, posted by tetrix on September 8, 2010, at 20:02:59
Yes, there's a pattern. Usually it's in the tone, pitch in voice and rate/speed of speech.
I know when he confronts/disarms a defense i'm using when his voice gets louder, and he acts surprised, sorta makes a big deal of something i said or did...Though it's not frequent when he does this, i go home feeling exhausted and usually sleep 10+ hours. Then go into some intense affect state, followed by new insights, transference changes, etc.
Not too much 'relaxing' going on...when he did comfort me before, about my first transient hallucination i told him about, his voice and mannerisms were very protective.I only remember that once and have craved it ever since...but since that time, those affect states don't scare me or bother me much.
Reassuring is usualy a higher-pitched voice. Not much reassurance anymore...It's really interesting how every thing and how it is said affects us. I doubt if a stranger said the same thing, it would have anywhere near the same affect. it's really interesting how this works.
You worried about something your T said?
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