Posted by pegasus on August 23, 2010, at 15:49:54
In reply to starting new T search: T #1, posted by pegasus on August 20, 2010, at 8:52:14
This next T was a bit further out of my comfort zone, by my choice. He specializes in body-centered therapy, which I thought might be useful.
At first, I really liked him, and was thinking that he was my first choice so far. Certainly I like the idea of learning to be more aware of my body, and how it is affected when I talk about various things. And I completely believe that integrating body awareness and using physical tools for helping to manage emotions can be really valuable in working through difficult stuff.
Also, I liked his office. It felt very comfortable and private. More spacious than T #2, who has a tiny, room in his home. And more warm and full than T #1 who seemed to have rented the space for an hour.
I liked the way he explained his practice, and I liked his manner, which felt attentive, but not scary.
But then, toward the end, he started getting a bit condescending. Here is an exchange:
(We had done some work with boundaries on the floor - no touching, just setting up a rope around me to define my personal boundary.)
Me: So, do you usually work while sitting on the floor like this?
T3: Yes, often. But who do you think is in charge of the session after we get going?
Me: OK, so it's my choice.
T3: If a client comes in and says, "T3, I just need to talk to you today" and sits on the couch, what do you think I'm going to do?
Me: Uh, right. OK. (Thinking, are we on Sesame Street? Do I look like a child?)
As I walked out, I thought . . . Yech.
Too bad, because I think I would like to do some work in this mode, and he seemed like a good compromise between T1 and T2 in terms of warmth and connection. Maybe I need to interview some other body-centered folks.
Peg
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