Posted by emilyp on July 3, 2010, at 2:02:22
In reply to Re: 'You're Harmful!' » emilyp, posted by Verloren on July 2, 2010, at 5:41:19
I don't think you have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. But, in my opinion, you do need to consider others, even if it is your therapist (that is even though you are paying her.) While there are differences between your relationship with your therapist and those in the rest of your life, how you treat a therapist is frequently indicative of how you treat others in your life. And for a relationship to work, both people need to be comfortable. Sometimes that means understanding how others may feel, even if you think it is not completely fair or right.
What I find somewhat odd is that you acknowledge all the issues surrounding your relationship with Ada, including the obvious transference issues. Why is it such a horrible thing for her to express herself about this issue, especially considering that you believe her concerns may be valid.
You say "Every time I think about her and what she can and definitely can't be for me, I am intensely reminded about our boundaries." But it is hard for anyone to read another person's mind. She may not realize that you are dealing with these issues.
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