Posted by Dinah on May 29, 2010, at 8:57:31
In reply to I can't accept nice things, posted by brokenpuppet on May 29, 2010, at 7:15:29
Certainty is hard. I don't think it can be forced.
I think I've settled for "I think maybe he actually does care about me." Or "I can almost accept that he cares about me." Then there will be times like yesterday when he doesn't return a call even though I asked him to, and I think "Hmmm... He says he cares, and in session he feels like he cares, but maybe he doesn't care." I think there's always a part of me who twists things around when he isn't in front of me and whispers "He doesn't care at all."
For me the problems lay more in the certainty that he didn't care. I haven't felt that in a while.
Would it be possible just to accept and enjoy the thought "Maybe she actually does like me!" without having to force certainty on yourself? Certainty is nice, but it can be fleeting in the best of circumstances.
poster:Dinah
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