Posted by workinprogress on May 26, 2010, at 1:59:21
In reply to Re: My therapist is extraordinary sometimes » Daisym, posted by Dinah on May 25, 2010, at 22:05:00
Dinah,
First... you have such an amazingly loving spirit- it came through so much in this post and your original, I wanted to make sure I shared that feeling.
As for the subject, I'll have both you and your pup in my thoughts. I know how much a part of the family they become... and early loss hurts so much more. You're handling it all with so much grace... though I'm not at all surprised.
And yes, acceptance is a big word for me this week. I just got through a seminar where I think acceptance was the most important lesson learned. I was able to accept me "not doing it right" "beating myself up about not doing it right" and on and on. In the end, just noticing and accepting my thoughts and knowing that those were "my thoughts" and accepting them didn't make them become me... well, that was huge. Acceptance seems to take the sting away. Fighting it keeps hard stuff lingering. Acceptance sets it free. It's been an amazing lesson for me and it seems you're executing it at such an important time.
My thoughts are with you. Take extra special care of yourself through this.
(((((((Dinah))))))))
xo
WIP> Thank you, Daisy.
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> I was thinking, as I left today, that there was probably a wider applicability to what happened today. Not that there isn't value to challenging our irrational beliefs about ourselves. But sometimes, no matter how much we try to reason with ourselves, and no matter how much we try to be good, there is a part of us that feels shame and guilt about all the things that only we know about ourselves. Maybe the answer isn't to try to talk ourselves out of our beliefs but to go through the steps to forgive ourselves for all the areas where we fall short of who we think we should be, no matter how very human falling short may be. It doesn't hurt to feel forgiven either.
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> It made me think briefly how powerful a tool interdiction must have been in the middle ages.
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> But maybe that's just me who feels that way.
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