Posted by catlady on February 27, 2010, at 3:10:47
In reply to Therapy used to help with my loneliness, not anymo, posted by rnny on February 26, 2010, at 23:17:47
>I just want to say I emphasize with you completely. I am pretty much in the same boat you are. I have a hard time keeping friends. We always just end up drifting apart. I give a lot more than I get. I have 2 friends right now but they are not very supportive but I hang on to them because they are the only ones I have. I also have my sister which helps a lot. I would be lost without her. Other than that my therapist is one of my main support systems. I know how hard it is not having a very good support system. It makes me very frustrated. Sometimes I don't think my therapist understands how hard it is for me. I didn't learn these skills when I was younger. Plus I had some traumatic events that happened that made me kind of withdrawn. My therapist is also wanting to cut back appointments to every other week which is going to make it harder yet. She is concerned about me only depending on her. I really do feel for you. I have started going to the YMCA and to weight watchers. I don't know if I'll make friends in these places but at least I get a little bit of support. So hang in there. I told my therapist it is a lot harder for those of us without good support systems. I really do understand the loneliness. So sorry that you are going through this also.
Therapy used to help with my loneliness but not anymore. My T retired a long time ago and I used to look forward to seeing her because she was the only support system I had. We were working on me having more of a support system but she retired before that happened. I have a new T now. She is OK but one thing that is wierd is that she sees alot of patients and I get to see who they are because I see them coming out of her office and I see them waiting for her when I leave her office. With the old T, she was in a very ultra large group practice so you never knew who was waiting for who and so forth. I worry about the new T seeing so many people (I swear, it seems like a ton, always new people and everyone in the waiting room that she shares with a psychiatrist seems to go to her). We get chatting as there are so many people in the waiting room and the subject comes up. People seem open there in the waiting room discussing their problems. One guy was dressed in women's clothing. It was obvious he was a cross dresser and we were talking and I enjoyed his conversation immensely. He then whispered very lowly, "just so you know, I am a man". I could have said, "no kidding" but I didn't want to hurt his feelings and said very quietly, "wow, I would never have known. You are beautiful". I mean he had on a wig, lipstick women's clothing, the whole 9 yards. i just found out my rent is going up 72 per cent but my income isn't and I am freaking out. I get that achy loneliness inside because I have no one to discuss this kind of stuff with other than the T. Do you have a support system so that anything that happens in your life you feel you have someone to run to or turn to or talk to (whatever you want to call it) other than your T? Thanks.
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