Posted by Dinah on January 28, 2010, at 21:59:56
In reply to Re: transference nightmare, posted by rnny on January 28, 2010, at 20:27:13
The point I was making really wasn't about humor so much as it was about addressing the issue. I would absolutely address the issue with my therapist, although I may choose a less than "confrontational" way of doing so. In fact I almost definitely would, since anything else would lead to both of us digging our heels in.
That being said, I'm all in favor of walking away from therapists. I've done it myself with absolutely no regrets.
It depends on how much the overall relationship is helpful. In a relationship I want to keep, I try to address issues in a way that enhances or at least does not damage the relationship. I call it "fighting to relationship". With my therapist, humor can be an excellent way to bring up serious subjects without incurring bad feelings. Not that he'd in any way miss the intent.
In a relationship I don't wish to keep, I walk.
On the other hand, I'm not either tendency in myself is always in my best interests. And some therapists wouldn't appreciate my approach. I suppose the relationship we've built up probably makes the balance of that sort of thing much easier.
I just wanted to clarify that, for me at least, humor does not mean dismissing something. Quite the contrary.
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