Posted by Dinah on January 23, 2010, at 22:33:48
In reply to transference nightmare, posted by ebo4ny on January 23, 2010, at 16:01:59
Why won't he let you talk about it directly?
I'd find it pretty annoying myself, but I think my therapist would let me discuss it with him openly, and probably he'd explain why he's doing it.
I certainly wouldn't suggest this as what you should do, but I know myself well enough to know that if my therapist did do this, I'd probably comment on his fixation on my clothing. Or twirl as I walk in and suggest that since he is so fascinated by my clothing, that he tell me straight up what he thinks I'm trying to say with what I'm wearing today, so that we could move along to more useful topics. Or I might cut out some photos of people in various sorts of clothing, and ask him what he thinks their clothing means. But that's me, and it likely wouldn't be all that productive on my part. :)
Maybe you could ask him what it is a client could wear that he *wouldn't* find worthy of comment? Or if it's a standard part of his therapeutic approach? Or if he has some special reason to bring attention to your attire?
Or bring in your post and tell him you feel uncomfortable and would like to discuss this openly?
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