Posted by southernsky on December 16, 2009, at 11:30:35
In reply to Re: why does regression happen in therapy??, posted by lingonberry on December 4, 2009, at 5:57:16
I have to say I love what you said here Ligonberry!! This is exactly how my therapy is unfolding....
I was also confused about regression. Recently I told my T I feel like a whiney little child everytime I come to see him now...Now that I am able to trust him....he told me even before I became this childish, that the regression happens when you feel trusting with your T-when you feel comfortable enough to be able to be yourself-or to sort of come out from hiding-much like you described...
I have read some negative things about regression though, that some schools of thought totally discourage it or claim it is sometimes a defense against the realities of the therapeutic relationship.....but I see it the way you described, how my T described, and have learned so much, in such a short time, from experiencing those childlike feelings.
I think psychodynamic therapy is amazing....All those books I read over the years...all the years of therapy that shut out transference and object relations or discussions of it....nothing. Within just a few weeks of psychodynamic therapy (with the right T too) I had already learned sooo much about myself, and 100 times more now that I developed attachment feelings for him and the signficant transference feelings become so much more noticable and significant... I wouldn't expect it to work for everyone, and a person has to be really willing to take a hard, even critical look within themselves to do it...especially with being slammed with things like - wow, I never realized I've been doing this all these years...or the unpleasant parental neglect/abuse memories and feelings the T/transference brings about.
...but it's a shame it is underrated and the trend is towards CBT for all...it seems there is less access and encouragement towards psychodynamic orientations these days. I can see where CBT would be helpful and that some prefer it, but it seems like it is being pushed for all. I am sooooo lucky to have found T and to have access to this type of therapy now.
Sometimes it does feel like magic. Thanks for your post =)
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