Posted by lingonberry on December 4, 2009, at 5:57:16
In reply to why does regression happen in therapy??, posted by obsidian on December 2, 2009, at 20:25:58
Maybe we are predisposed (inherent in us) to strive towards our true self, and by regression to dependence (if thats what you mean, Im not sure) we get a second chance to do things right, together with our T.
I think the more we trust our T the more our defences decrease and the frozen part within (the wounded child) began to make it self known. It has always been there but it has not been safe to let it out. It is safe to let it out with our T when we understand that they dont going to leave us and that they respect our needs.
My experience is when the wounded child comes out from its hiding, thats when we start to build a new sense of self we start to listen to what the wounded child has to say, what we need, are missing, feeling and thinking and how we interact with those around us. We start to feel empathy towards ourselves, take better care of ourselves and let the child within shine; we acknowledge our needs and understand that they are ok. We start to grow again, and finally become reintegrated. Just my thoughts!
> why is it that I am not so concerned about what is healthy, but rather I am focused generally on what reduces anxiety/what feels good?
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> I need to make an effort toward certain things...but I can't seem to get it together
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> I feel like I am a limited person. I am not somehow the person I was supposed to be.
> but somehow I think I understand a lot about people, and I also know there are things I really have to learn.
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> It's hard to be with people, they scare the crap out of me...and I am with them all-day-long.
> I even have to manage being friendly when I am not feeling friendly. It's exhausting.
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> but anyway, back to the topic of my post....
> why am I going nowhere fast?
> any ideas??
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