Posted by deerock on December 15, 2009, at 11:50:28
In reply to Re: T acts clinical deerock, posted by lingonberry on December 15, 2009, at 11:27:43
>>Youre right. But that doesnt necessarily mean you have to act on those feelings. I get mad at my T, especially in the past, but I dont act on those feelings; I feel them and then we talk about them. My T is not my enemy, my own thoughts and feelings are.
I think what you said above is exactly what the problem was/is.
I told my T I was angry really calmly. But I think the whole issue is why I was angry. I felt like my T was not helping me and was holding her responsible for my feelings. That made me feel like she was my enemy. Along with that, she is female and my mother was always against me in some way, so I assumed she was the same way.So how are you defining acting out anger? I feel there are different ways of defining this. I think what I do is get angry and then try to make the person responsible for my anger. When they cannot remove it, I start to think the other person is bad or is doing me some kind of harm.
But I don't know if thats acting out my anger. I feel like acting on anger means yelling or threatening someone or even hitting them. I didn't do that with my T. I think what I acted out is some kind of connection with my mom where i expect mom/t to make me feel better. they dont. i assume they are useless. maybe making the conclusion that this person is no good is a way of acting out the anger. im giving myself a headache. its time to let this go for a bit.
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