Posted by muffled on December 14, 2009, at 12:10:35
In reply to Re: Help with Screening New Ts? » muffled, posted by TherapyGirl on December 14, 2009, at 9:53:54
> Thanks, Muffly. I'm still thinking about WHERE we would meet. I think you are right -- it can't be where there are hundreds of people around.
Maybe a park? Is there water around? A lake, ocean, fountain? I like water.
> At first, I will have contact with her about once every three weeks -- either visits, phone calls or email. She wants to do something with me on my birthday, which is about 3 weeks after she leaves. She will be moving in February.*Thats sounds way cool that she will be w/you on B-day :)!!
Can you arrange to do a short email in btwn the three weeks, as long as there are limits on it? Eg, they have to be kinda 'aquaintance' type mails. Like not therapy stuff. But just enuf that T will reapond and say she is fine and things are going OK. Keeping it LOW key, but enuf for you to know she 'exists'. I dunno if thats an issue for you, but it was for me w/my oldT. So I initially did 1x/wk, very short mails, and she usu replied w/in a week or so. So that kinda helped me break the connection more slowly.
I think you said she wasn't moving TOOOOOO far away. So mayhap you could visit from time to time, she would proly like that.
Its gonna be hard :(
But just try and keep in your mind that T is Ok, and she not rejecting you, she moving away, but yopu can still contact her now and again.
And you got a whole new T journey to look forward to.> I really appreciate your support through this -- you are a good friend. There are so many good people here, even with all the uproar.
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> (((((((((Babblers))))))))))))yup, I agree ((((babblers))))
There's good people out there. Not just on babble.
They out there.
We just got to be brave and find and connect(HAH! I am talking to MYSELF here!!!).
Take care,
M
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