Posted by lingonberry on November 21, 2009, at 10:31:30
In reply to Sliding towards meltdown, posted by Dinah on November 20, 2009, at 8:17:02
Hi Dinah,
Im sorry about your mom and that youre upset!
Im a new babbler but I have done some research and I just want you to know from what Ive been reading, I think you have all the strength and skills you need to stay away, or to somewhat handle, your mother. And it also seems that you have a good relationship with your T.
I can totally relate! I divorced my parents two years ago, both emotionally and physically. They are too narcissistic, too demanding. At first, it provoked a lot of guilt, but now Im doing pretty well. Its not an easy task divorcing a parent. But I think its ok to do so in order to set up an environment thats generating growth. Its a whole another thing to do so in order to avoid looking inside oneself, which I definitely dont think you do youre just doing what you need to do, taking responsibility and protecting yourself, and it takes a lot of courage to do so.
I think its up to you to decide what to do with your mother- to stay or to leave. But thats just my opinion. Doesnt your T agree with this at all?
I really hope things will workout for you. All the best!
Lingonberry
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