Posted by Lauren0722 on October 29, 2009, at 8:05:14
In reply to Re: If You Have Personal/Romantic Feelings for your T., posted by emmanuel98 on October 28, 2009, at 19:36:05
I think we seek all stories - the erotic ones are the most troublesome ones I think because the sexual factor is more at play - but when you describe counting days in between appts and such, yes, I do this too, and these are the feelings and stories I am looking for - as I tried to impart and it is hard to do online here, I think there are so many levels of love, engagement, connection, deeply missing them and for all sorts of reasons. I do think your story could help someone who is experiencing the same things even if it had nothing to do with sex - I want to know if you discussed it with your T, how did they react? does the topic continue to come up? can you see a day without them in some way not in your life?
so yes, my interest in your story is there and I would welcome you to contact me thru email (lauren0722@yahoo.com) or thru our website which has a contact form on it as well:
www.inlovewithyourtherapist.com
As I did with the man I spoke to this week, we could simply email each other the best day and time for us to talk, to find out what brought you to therapy, what feelings developed, how long you have been going, things of that nature and it is really up to you to stay anonymous or not........I know that I will never use any real therapist name in my research or the book because I think that these are simply people in a tough profession who are bound to feel connection to their clients and they are held to such high standards that any little blip that even remotely appears wrong, could hurt their career - for instance, the chapter for my story will be called "Lauren's Story" - my therapists name will never be mentioned, where I live in America will not be disclosed, nothing to connect the dots - the only thing I am after are the honest stories with the honest feelings.
I do hope to hear from you and if not, wish you the best in your journey with therapy.
Lauren
> I'm not sure what you're looking for. Doesn't everyone have personal/romantic feelings about their T? Isn't that the nature of therapy? Or are you talking about erotic feelings? Or boundary-crossings? I'm unclear on this.
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> I love my T. For the first few years of therapy, I counted the days between appointments like a child awaiting Christmas morning. I sat and cried in his office and told him how much I loved him. But it wasn't romantic love or erotic love. I loved him the way a child loves a good parent. I got a lot of help from guidetopsychology.com when I was really in the throes of this.
> Is this the kind of story you're looking for?
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