Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 27, 2009, at 10:51:32
In reply to Re: If You Have Personal/Romantic Feelings for your T. » sassyfrancesca, posted by BayLeaf on October 26, 2009, at 18:46:14
> why is it that u can't post about this here?? Because there are some who are judgemental. I have posted before, and probably won't share again because of that judgemental attitude.
MANY of us have had these same feelings. I don't see any reason for another site - actually, in this case I think its VERY unhealthy.
It isn't unhealthy. There is no place for those of us who are in love with our therapists to talk about this. If we mention it to someone who hasn't experienced this, we are judged.
I see a collective of women who have crossed or are close to crossing the boundaries all hanging together...basically normalizing the behavior.
We aren't saying the behavor is "normal"----it is REAL.
Our voices are important to be heard. It isn't about right or wrong...it's about the human condition.....it is about what can happen in a therapeutic relationship which turns personal (for both parties).....how and what we experience. A place for people to talk about anything that is happening, without (again) the risk of being misunderstood or judged. That in itself, is painful.
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> I hope you will stay right here and listen to lots of people's opinions rather than creating a site for those who agree with you. I already know what other people's opinions are.....it is of no help or value to me; most have been disparaging. Jadah was a poster years ago; she had an affair with her t for 5 years. People were sensitive, non-judgemental and understanding. It seems some on the board have the opposite effect.I totally understood Jadah's situation and related to it.
This isn't about people agreeing with me. That is irrelevant. The site is for people who have experienced the pain of being in love with a therapist and what we experience and how we cope.
This is a subject rarely discussed (the mental health world would like to believe it doesn't exist), those who haven't experienced it, don't understand (just leave is their comment(s)), and we are further judged and hurt.
Our book will bring this out of the closet....100's if not more people will recognize that they are not alone. That is the reason for the site and eventual...forthcoming book. To talk about the "forbidden"...taboo subject....to help.
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> Bay
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